When the Scottish blogger behind Lolly Likes Fatshiongot engaged last February, she suspected that as a plus-size bride, she’d have trouble receiving marriage inspiration. And she was right.
“Google ‘plus bride/ fat bride’ and most of the photos that come up are fat gags, ” Lolly told the Daily Dot. “Trying to find actual plus-size bride photos for inspiration was not easy … It is not news that plus/ fat people get married, so why was it so hard to find photos of them? “
Eventually, she decided to take matters into her own hands: Lolly reached out to her followers and social networks, calling for other plus-size brides( and bridegrooms) to share their bridal photos and tales online. In Nov. 2015, she launched her “1 05 Fat/ Plus Bride/ Groom Photos” series with a blog post and YouTube video featuring the images she received.
Every week on “Wedding Wednesday, ” she publishes a profile of a different plus-size couple( opposite-sex couples, but same-sex couples as well) about their nuptials. Each coupleshares their typical romantic, how-we-met narrative, along with details on where and how they found wedding attire in different sizes. Just as Lolly expected, similar sentiments echo from many of the brides and bridegrooms 😛 TAGEND
‘”I did feel a lot of pressure to lose weight from those around me. People were always asking me what diet I was on, presuming I was ‘shredding for the wedding.'”
“I had a lot of anxiety growing up about receiving a nice, formal garment for such an occasion.”
“Because I was plus-sized, I knew my dress shopping experience wouldn’t be what I dreamed of as a little girl. I love the dress I got, but I definitely would say I resolved because I knew it would be a long process to find my ‘dream’ dress.”
“It was a little overwhelming.”
In such a daunting climate, Lolly hopes she can inspire plus-size brides- and grooms-to-be with her collected images while also inspiring a conversation about size diversity in the bridal industry. “Positive visibility is so important for plus/ fat people, ” she told the Daily Dot. “It needs to be seen that fat people are just like smaller people. We love, get married, have sex, have households. We are beautiful and have the same right to a perfect day as anyone else. Having a full range of wedding attire available to plus/ fat people should not be an issue, but it is.”
Jenn Cleggof Portland, OR, one of the “Wedding Wednesday” brides, told the Daily Dot she was just as disappointed as Lolly while she began to scheme her bridal. ” … ts truly deterring because you’re looking at bridal magazines, going to bridal displays and stores and it’s just like, ‘Where do I fit into this? How am I even going to make this happen? ‘” she told. “You dont have anyone or anything to look to, so youre just trying to piece it together by yourself.”
Clegg continued, “It’s especially upsetting because you’re planning what’s supposed to be the biggest and most important day of your life, so you’re already overwhelmed, stressed and hyper-self-conscious because you want everything to be perfect.”
Not merely does marriage media primarily share images of straight size individuals, it also actively encourages brides- and grooms-to-be to drop-off some pounds before the big day. “Couples getting married are under an incredible sum of pressure from the industry to lose weight, “Emma Brownof the UK, another “Wedding Wednesday” bride, told the Daily Dot. “All of the bridal mags and carnivals have adverts vendors pushing various weight loss fads and to people how they ‘should’ seem and what they ‘should’ wear! ” As Brown and the others pointed out, fewif any of those suggestions fall in the plus-size realm, constructing it especially difficult for larger folks to find guidance and support.
That’s why Clegg jumped at the opportunity to take part in Lollys series. “What Lolly and this series have done is …. people who aren’t a part of that small, society-accepted group do fall in love, get married, and find lots of happiness, ” she told. “That is something that is super righteous and important to have in this world.”Bobbi Olsonfrom South Carolina is especially grateful for that message, which she received not only as one of Lolly’s readersbut as another of her featured brides. “It was really special to me to be featured, ” she told the Daily Dot. She continued 😛 TAGEND
“One thing that really stressed me about my bridal day…was how people opinion my husband and together. As a woman, being larger than your spouse is altogether taboo. Its something that I can honestly say I have never seen in a magazine or television present, or truly featured in the media in any positive style at all…There are so many things that society says that I cant do, but Lolly’s blog helps break those walls and prove that we can.”
Lolly has been loving her part in all of this.As she prepares for her own 2016 marriage, she said she is benefiting from her readers positive tales as much as theyre benefiting from her posting them. “This is a journey and I hope to learn many inspiring things from these couples over the next year, ” she explained. “I am inspired by their openness and how they are happy to share their tales with me and my readers.”
Appearing as a blush bride on Lolly’s blog served as an important reminder of her beauty and self-worth, Olson recollected. “Your bridal day is likely to be one of the most incredible and memorable days of your life, and I can say from experience that all of the anxiety and stress I felt beforehandworrying about receiving a dress, about being judged for my option or being larger than my husbandall melted away in the heat of the moment, ” she said.
Ultimately, Olson’s marriage day “could not have been more perfect, ” she told. And she wants other plus-size brides-to-be to know that everything she felthappy, loved, beautiful, is possible for everyone.
“I want other women in larger bodies to know that no matter what pressures they’re impression, we have the right to feeling beautiful, ” she told. “We have the right to love ourselves and we have the right to a perfect bridal day.”
Photo via LollyLikesFATshion | Remix by Jason Reed